12 Apr Crummy Mindsets- Guilt after sending an invoice
Just read Laura Belgray’s Talking Shrimp blog post about feeling guilty when charging for something that seems ‘easy’ to us. She mentions Denise Duffield Thomas’ FREE Money Mindset Workshop to help with this issue, which is awesome. Her post struck a chord. I think this guilt comes from that old school mindset of “If it doesn’t hurt or cause pain, you haven’t worked hard enough and you surely won’t see a reward.”
“No pain. No gain.”
So when we receive a reward for something that wasn’t painful or aggravating, we feel like maybe we missed something. Like we haven’t ‘suffered’ enough to see fruit of our labor. What a crock of shit! I’ve been karate chopping my own crummy mindsets for the past two years and this is definitely one of the worst. Sometimes I feel that twinge…like, is it okay for me to charge for this or that? It’s especially tempting to give into this fear when doing something new. I have to remind myself that what’s easy for me is often torture for someone else. Do you ever struggle with this? Ever struggle to see the value you provide because it just seems too easy? Now, I’m not talking about doing something half-heartedly and laughing all the way to the bank. That’s the fastest way to the poor house in my opinion. I’m talking about doing work that puts you in the zone, where everything flows, and you create something your client loves without feeling stressed. Where you over-deliver and delight your client without having to think much about it- the work comes naturally. But then you freak out about what you charged. THAT is what I’m talking about.
So What’s The Trick?
First, you have to believe in yourself. Then just focus on how you impact the other person. Believe you’re worth every penny. It’s a crucial building block for every person doing ANY kind of business out there. Now go be awesome!